Young Canadians continue to join extremist movements and it needs compassion and community to help them and their families, says Alexandra Bain, the new director of Hayat Canada, an outreach program for people with children involved in violent extremist groups.
Bain, who teaches religious studies at St. Thomas University, says she also once lost someone to an extremist group. The youth are lured into what she describes as a cult and despite all the best efforts from their families and the police, children continue to leave, she says.
She now hopes to engage more volunteers to help and work with the families. Many of them are often horrified at what their child is doing and feel alone in coping with the situation, she said.
“Watching it grow over the years and watching young people be affected by these ideas and by these social attractions from other young people who are like-minded, it does seem to be like a virus,” she says. “You can’t tell who’s going to be hit next.”
“This could be my child, this could be your child.”
Bain worked with Hayat Canada for a number of months before the organization’s founder, Christianne Boudreau, asked her to take over as director.
Boudreau’s son died while fighting with ISIS in Syria in 2014. In a previous interview with CBC, she says she grew tired of waiting for Canada to take action on de-radicalization so she ventured out on her own.
She is now involved with at least 50 families in 11 countries — 20 of the families in Canada — as well as with extractions and interventions in Syria. She says she chose Bain to take over the Canadian chapter of Hayat because she’s compassionate, challenges the system, and puts the families first.
Bain says she knows what it’s like to be in their shoes. The 26-year-old man she lost to a jihadist movement was like family, she says.
“The impact it had on our family, not just on myself but on my children, who were watching, I at that point decided that I wanted to do something to make sure that families don’t have to face this alone,” says Bain.
But Hayat is not just a contact for families in crisis, connecting them with community resources, volunteers and counselling services.
It also tries to prevent other children from following in the footsteps of a friend, sibling or cousin.
Bain recently noticed an small increase in people joining extremist groups. In the earlier years, they would not tell anyone about their plans until they arrived in Turkey or Syria. But now people are leaving “and nobody knows they are gone, and nobody hears from them again.”
The families feel helpless, and shy away from contacting the police, as incarcerations and medical examinations often make matters worse, she says. Instead of seeking official support, they now contact groups like Hayat. But if Bain or any volunteer feels there is a definitive threat against an individual or a place, they contact the police.
“We are there to help people and everyone knows we are there to help,” she says.
Bain says radical extremists can lure the youth because they often feel disenfranchised with their life, struggle with drugs, or have problems with their parents, and provide them with “very easy answers to life’s questions.” Then they introduce them to a like-minded group that becomes their new family.
“In fact, more important than their family, and they are taught to abandon their family because their family does not have the same ideology,” she says.
Hayat encourages families to stay in touch with their children even after they leave because sometimes they do come back. She says radicalization is not as much of a problem as is disengaging them from their extremist views and support of violence.
“The very best advocates for this are the families themselves,” she says. “So the first thing the families need is support.”
She added that there are organizations that help people leave extremist groups and set up a new life in another country, she said. Those who return to Canada and are not deemed criminals by the state often suffer from post-traumatic stress, and require counselling to be “re-engaged in a new life,” she says.
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